Quarter life crisis?!

Until recently, I didn’t know what on earth my mind was doing.

It was constantly going back and forth, left and right, trying to distinguish what the hell it wants to do. It was driving me bananas! It still is, by the way. But I had to figure out what was going on. I knew I wasn’t going crazy. I started doing some research, and it appears I am going through a Quarter-Life Crisis. SAY WHHHAAAT? I didn’t even know that existed.

But it does. And it’s very, very real.

On most days I am content with my current life situation, but there are always a few days in the week when the big question sneaks up and overclouds the big ray of sunshine in my mind: Is this it? Is this where the adventure stops? If so, I am not so pleased. I wouldn’t say I live an exciting life right now. I live in a small state, two hours long from top to bottom. And everyone knows everyone. We all die famous in this small state.

Twenty-three years old. Twenty three. I know I’m not supposed to have it all figured out. Young adults including myself are always being reminded of this. But did the not-so-young adults fail to realize we desperately need their help?

At this point in our lives, I think it’s safe to admit we need inspiration, goals, motivation, courage, and strength in order to live a well-balanced life.We need your support, not-so-young-adults. We need your wisdom.

I have a full-time job with amazing benefits and I’m working on my bachelor’s degree and yet I’m still not satisfied. What’s it going to take?! And to think I thought I wouldn’t make it through High School. Pfffft. Piece of cake that was. That part is over in 4 years. But my 20’s…boy am I about to take a ride.





18 thoughts on “Quarter life crisis?!

  1. We have all been there and experience these feelings from time to time throughout our lives. I think as long as you keep walking forward, you are moving. You will have a feeling on what direction to take your next step. ❤️​

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  2. You are very young Blue Settia, wait til you are 30 and it’s all downhill from there (no, I am only kidding!!!) I think change is great, it forces us to confront our comfort zones and test our boundaries in order to realise a better version of ourselves. Perhaps take a break from the daily humdrum, challenge yourself, do something you would not ordinarily feel comfortable doing. For me, that was solo travelling and I had the most liberating time of my time. 😊 Good luck!

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    1. Thank you so much for the feedback Jolene. I appreciate it so much! I got a nice laugh when you said it would all go down hill. Lol. This is surely going to be a journey. I just worry about not having any kids. That is something I want so bad. My own children. With a strong marriage. They say I still have time, but time is also ticking. The clock doesn’t stop!
      Sigh. I hope it all works out for me the way I envision it.
      I see you travel. That is very inspirational. I follow quite a few people who travel (solo) and it is definitely something I am considering.
      Thanks for reading!

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  3. You just made me google “mid-life crisis.” Just learned that women can go through it sooner than men between 35 – 44 years old.
    I think I have been analyzing my life more lately and looking for a change. Actually, really needing a change. Maybe it’s why I started blogging and trying to look more towards the humor in my life. Maybe to lighten my mood and try to see the fun that does exist. And to have fun writing!

    20s are fun but yes, a big time in your life for growth and possibilities. It seems like you will be just fine! 🙂

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    1. I started blogging because I needed a change. I needed an outlet that allows me to connect to someone, or something who is truly listening. So far the blogging community has been really supportive.
      I didn’t know what I was going through until I read about Quarter-life crisis. Everyone is familiar with mid-life crisis but not so much quarter. I was shocked when I found out it was a real thing. It’s exactly what I’m going through. Confused about the future and unsure what’s to come. I think the more we think positive about things, the more positive we see!

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  4. I’m in my thirties. Looking back, I don’t think there’s any way to really know what you want in your twenties. What I would encourage you to do is take advantage of any opportunity to try something out as often as you can. There are things I had the opportunity to do that I now wish I’d done when I had the chance. On the other hand, I like where I ended up most days. No matter your decisions, there will always be the accompanying “what-ifs”.

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    1. Thank you for sharing. And thank you for the advice. You’re right, there will always be what-if’s no matter how old we are. It’s a good thing you like where you ended up, I hope I do ! I think about what my life is going to be like in 10 years all of the time. I appreciate feedback from someone in your age group, because I look up to y’all. Lol. Thanks!

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      1. I, too, look forward 10 years to my forties. My child will go from elementary school to graduation from high school in the next 10 years. It’s amazing how life can change in 10 years when each day seems the same.

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    1. Hi Carla,
      Thank you for reading. It means a ton!
      I am inspired by the way you just got up and went to Ireland. That is amazing. I wish it was that easy for me. Maybe it is, maybe something is just holding me back.
      The days are moving quicker, and I feel stuck most days. I wonder what life is going to be like in just 10 short years. Will it be any different? Does it get any better? (rhetorical). I wonder.
      Now I have to ask, did you find any serenity when you lived in Ireland?
      Thanks for sharing your experience. I look up to it 🙂

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      1. There were definitely hard moments in being so far away from everything and everyone I know. Getting adjusted to a different culture, different weather and trying to find a job and place to live was a challenge. I felt really homesick at times, but in the end I’m glad I did it. It was always my dream to go there and I’m happy I got to really soak up the culture. It gave me a sense of accomplishment that I lived in a different country all on my own. Plus I got to see U2 in Dublin! That was a highlight. I’m still in contact with people I met over there. I would definitely recommend doing it while you’re young and free. Once you settle down and start a family, traveling isn’t as easy.

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      2. That’s amazing. At least you had the experience, and the memories will stay with you forever. Thank you for sharing your challenges and highlights. I plan to move in a couple years out of state, and into a new state with NO family near by. This life is too short not to do the things we want and have the ability to do. The bright side is, if I don’t feel safe I can always go back home. Thank you so much for the advice. I really do mean it when I say I look up to this. And I am so thankful you shared your experience.

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      3. No problem at all! I’m happy to share. I talk about my Ireland experience a lot, so it must have impacted me. All the best with your move! It can feel scary and exciting at the same time. You’ll do great!

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